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What Zumba Class Taught Me About Couples Counseling


Who knew the latest fitness craze could be so educational?

Years ago, like many therapists, personal difficulties forced me to the therapy realm, a place I found both personal comfort and stimulating challenge. I became an excellent "student" of all things therapy and it was natural to turn it into my area of academic study and then my profession. Like Mari, I could do all the moves.

When a couple comes in for therapy, I need to remember that they have been doing other things with their lives and passions, not mastering intimacy-building techniques. Usually, they are beginners and the best thing we can do in our sessions is slow down ... Take a tiny piece and master it. Help a husband to really listen to a simple sentence. Then reflect it back to his beloved wife in a way that makes her know she is cherished. How A Relationship Is Like An Accordion

Then do it again. And again. And again. Get good at really listening curiously and generously to a partner. I'm going to try the same thing with the new reggae dance moves at my next Zumba class. Then do it again. And again. 5 Marriage Secrets From Happily Married (A Long Time!) Couples


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