What Objectum Sexuals Can Teach Us ALL About Love

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What Objectum Sexuals Can Teach Us ALL About Love
If you perceived personalities in objects, this woman and teacup picture would be hot, hot, hot!

And I still don't get why. Why the venom? I've never heard of an OS person committing a sex crime or hurting another person. They may be engaged in relationships other people consider eccentric, but the OS people I've surveyed mostly do not report much in the way of mental health issues (though some are anxious and depressed). Only a few have a history of sexual trauma and abuse. Generally, OS people feel normal and natural in their relationships with object beloveds, and suffer mostly from the social stigma and misunderstanding they encounter, should they reveal their erotic and affectionate orientation. Like members of other sexual and gender minorities, they are at times reviled or harmed for essential qualities which they cannot change. If you're beginning to get a picture of a vulnerable and underserved group, you're right on track. OS people are in as much need of schooling, jobs, housing, and adequate mental and physical health care as anyone else - but if they disclose the details of their personal lives, they are less likely to get the respect and services they deserve. This is doubly problematic, given the high percentage of people with autism diagnoses or traits in the OS population.

And so, as a sexologist looking into this orientation, I've considered factors such as the autism histories of some OS people, as well as the animist philosophies of others, of those who say all matter is conscious and alive and therefore our loves are not inanimate. And I've also stumbled over an extremely interesting condition which may have the potential to shed some light on the deep attraction that some people feel towards objects. This condition is called "object personification synesthesia" and it is, as you might imagine, rather rare. You may have heard of synesthesia. There are many forms, such as tasting colors or seeing smells. Other forms include sensing personalities in numbers, letters, shapes, days of the week, months of the year, and objects. People who experience synesthesia are not necessarily crazy - they just sense things in ways that many other people don't. And the way they sense feels real and natural to them.

A study published in the Journal of Cognitive Neuroscience in June, 2007, discussed the case of a young girl who consistently perceived "rich and detailed" personalities in "numbers, letters, simple shapes, and even furniture." (When "3" is a jerk and "E" is a king: personifying inanimate objects in synesthesia. Smilek D, et al.) This young girl even had such a pronounced antipathy to the personalites of some of her bedroom furniture that she asked her father to remove the disliked objects. The researchers tested and re-tested her object-personality pairings and found consistency, even down to her eye movements. To this young woman, her perceptions of these personalities feel real and natural. 

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