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Is something wrong with your relationship? Or is it just you?

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Is something wrong with your relationship? Or is it just you?
Relationships are like therapy—they bring all your dirt to the surface so you can work through it.

So please don’t blame the relationship. And for heaven’s sake, don’t blame yourself or your partner. Just know that this is what growth feels like. Work through the insecurities that come up. Ask yourself the hard questions, like why you’re feeling jealous or scared or vulnerable and if you really have to act on those emotions. Realize you can experience all of that dirt and stick around. When you stick around through the dirt and take the opportunity to clean it up, you’re growing.

When you start wondering if the relationship is all you thought it was, consider that maybe the relationship is just fine. Maybe what you’re feeling is the flower breaking the surface and starting to move up through the dirt. Once a little dirt is cleared out of the way, growth is natural and easy and so worth it.


Amy Johnson, Ph.D. is a psychologist and master certified coach. She writes a popular blog called Modern Enlightenment full of down-to-earth, achievable steps to living a happier, more enlightened life. Grab her FREE ebook on getting out of your own way to create the life you want.
 

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