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Divorce and Childrearing: How Parents Can Nurture and Protect Their Kids
Most parents who are in the process of considering or pursuing divorce are deeply worried about the effects the divorce will have on their children. And the concern is justified. Divorce is one of the most difficult life events that you and your children will ever experience, according to the well validated Holmes and Rahe Stressful Life Events Scale created by the two psychiatric researchers in 1967. Perhaps the two most critical tasks in protecting your kids' mental health going forward involve not criticizing and belittling your former partner and not asking your kids to take sides with you against your partner. Ever. For the rest of your life. Take a deep breath as you consider what this commitment to your children will entail.
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