Question: It’s been a year since I’ve had my baby and I never feel like having sex. Am I normal?
Answer: Very normal. Quite frankly, why would you feel like having sex? All the changes to your body’s hormones, the sheer exhaustion, and feeling overwhelmed are in no way an aphrodisiac.
That said, the first two years after baby couples often create poor sex habits which will make for an unhappy sex life many years after. Instigating a lot of unnecessary fights.
It’s important to make efforts to have sex or at the very least a space for connected intimacy on a regular basis.
Three easy things to remember:
Sex doesn’t have to mean intercourse
There are a ton of fun things you can do—a bath or massage—if intercourse is presently a turn off.
Intimacy outside the bedroom
Make sure to be affectionate every day as it keeps you feeling connected. Kiss each other first thing in the morning and before bed. Do your best to hug each other as much as you hug your new little baby.
Make sure your partner knows what you want
He isn’t a mind reader and will be happy to accommodate your needs. If you need pampering to get you in the mood, explain in detail what you want. The more he knows, the easier it will be for him to follow through with your wishes.
Great sex tip
When you make an effort to keep intimacy and sex on the radar, it does get easier and better over time.