Help! My Ex Wants to Be Sex Buddies


Help! My Ex Wants to Be Sex Buddies

Question: My ex has suddenly reappeared in my life and wants to be sex buddies. I’m really tempted.

Many women can have a one night stand or a sex buddy without any emotional complications. However, no-strings-attached-sex can be more tricky when it comes to an ex.

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First, it's normal to want to have sex with someone you might have spent a lot of time and heartache trying to get over. They are familiar and so there isn't the drama or awkwardness that can precede a new sex partner.

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That said, here’s some things to think about before hopping into the sack.
• The fresher the breakup the stronger your emotions will be and any dormant emotions will be jolted back to life. Do you really want to dredge up those old feelings?
• If the sex is good you may wonder why you broke up in the first place and moving on may take a lot longer.
• Are you willing to reestablish safe sex practices?
• What happens when your ex starts exhibiting traits that had you break up in the first place?
• What if it’s a one-off and you were simply booty call?
• Are you emotionally prepared for when your ex moves on?

If you’re alright with this list, then go ahead have tons of protected sex. Otherwise take a long cold shower and bring out your trusty BOB (battery operated boyfriend) when you feel your resolve wearing thin.

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Ultimately satisfying an urge at the sacrifice of self worth is never worth it—yes, even if the ex-sex is amazing.

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