Expert: Why Flirting Is Good For Your Love Life

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Expert: Why Flirting Is Good For Your Love Life

Seeing your partner flirt, understandably, can bring out insecurities and jealousy. Yet innocent flirting can add an immense amount of zest to your intimacy and sex life.

Think of flirting as window shopping for those in a committed relationship. You have to admit that it's really nice when you (or your partner) can still feel attractive and sexy to other people. Best of all, when your partner has permission to flirt then brings that wonderful flirting energy home to you it creates a happy couple connection.

As for mild jealousy, it actually affirms the affection within your relationship. That said, a well-balanced individual will not twist their jealousy into a full-blown fight.

Here are some easy things to do to give flirting a try:

  • Talk through what is acceptable and not acceptable flirting behavior. For example: It's okay for you both to chat and laugh with others but it's crossing the line when: (fill in the blank).
  • The first time you go out as a couple, take baby steps.
  • Make a pact that neither of you will keep secrets when it comes to flirting.

There is something empowering and sexy to be confident enough in your relationship to allow flirting. Try it, you might find you really like it.

Sex Tip: If you can't tell your partner about your flirting experience, you've crossed the line and shouldn't be doing it.

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