4. Opposites Attract. When it comes to money, men and women often have different views. Women see money as a sign of security and stability. They like to save for emergencies and when financial problems arise, they become very concerned and worried. Men take more risks with money and see financial problems as a threat to their self esteem and confidence. Put yourself in the other’s shoes to try to understand money from your partner’s perspective. Compromise is often essential. It is okay to disagree on some issues, but don’t let them get in the way of your overall goals as a couple.
5. Underlying Issues. Too often disagreements about money have little to do with the money itself and more to do with issues of control, security, self esteem and love! Money is a tangible part of a relationship, so it is easy to project emotional issues onto concrete money matters. Be honest with yourself about how you feel about money. If you've always been independent, for example, it may be hard for you to be "taken care of" financially. Think carefully as you discuss money issues with your partner, to make sure there isn’t a larger problem at the core.