World class athletes do this all the time so that when they are at the starting line in the race, their frontal lobes and muscle memories know exactly what to expect and how to behave. Just as it works for Olympic athletes, it’ll work for you. Through repeated rehearsals of your love intention your brain will shape your perceptions of how the world looks and then your actions will lead you to creating more love in your life.
Understand that a Love Intention is a kind of deep affirmation that comes from your heart. It comes out of your deepest longing. A Love Intention is a simple global statement that you make regardless of your present real life circumstances. So think about this question carefully. What is your love intention? State it in one sentence, in the present tense.
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Let me give you some examples:
- I have a devoted, loving, excited and exciting life partner.
- I have a great, devoted companion who goes on world adventures with me.
- I marry a fabulous guy who is just right for me.
If it feels great to think your love intention, then it is right on target. If a statement feels scary, that is good—you are pushing the edges of your growth. You can put your partner’s name in the love intention if you choose.
- Ben and I share a marriage that is exciting, nourishing and sexy.
- Brandon and I get closer every day.
- Jason and I commit to a win-win, growing love relationship
2. Activate Your Love Intention
This is the key secret! Think of your love intention as a mantra and use it in a similar way. In meditation you are instructed to put your attention on a given sound or series of words that serve as a mantra. Then, when thoughts or doubts come, you accept them. It's like, "Oh, I have to do the dishes" or “I'm worried about that deadline at work." Work with your Love intention either in your mind or aloud in the same way.
First, focus on your Love Intention. Then let any other thought or doubt come to mind, like, “I will never have this kind of love” or “It is too hard.” Just let these kinds of thoughts come. Then go back and put your attention on the mantra. Keep alternating between your Love Intention and any other thoughts or doubts until the other thoughts or doubts fade away. Finish by putting your full attention on your Love Intention.
Do this practice every day. Just for a few minutes.
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For example, you think, "I have a beautiful, loving relationship that gets better in every way." If a thought comes up, like "Oh, that's impossible…my kids are too much for him," just let it come and go like a cloud going by. Then go back to the Love Intention. Just work back and forth with it.