Should You Break Up?


Should You Break Up?

Bottom line: If you cannot answer "yes" to at least 10 of these questions—especially the last five—reconsider ending the relationship. Go into couples therapy (I'd be happy to refer you to a ProConnect member in your area) and work on the issues/behaviors in the questions you said "no" to. You may be able to save yourself (and your kids) from huge emotional and financial heartaches.

As the poet Rainer Maria Rilke said, "Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart. And try to love the questions themselves."


And don't forget to sign up for my FREE ongoing support. You can learn EXACTLY how to repair your relationship, rekindle the passion and—if it comes to thatrecover from heartache by subscribing to my Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter, absolutely FREE!

Wishing you love, Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & best-selling author of “Love in 90 Days” (dating advice book) out now in paperback with a new chapter on "Dating Games Men Play." Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE relationship & dating advice newsletter.

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Dr. Diana Kirschner


Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-seller “Love in 90 Days.”

Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship and Dating Advice Newsletter.

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