Can A Love Charm Really Help You Find Love?


Can A Love Charm Really Help You Find Love?
A love charm that represents your love intention can be a powerful talisman--really!

So I say: What do you have to lose by selecting particular stones that are aligned with your love intention? It will remind you of a positive thought about love and through that association you will be empowered. Putting the gemstone on, touching it during the day and seeing it in the mirror will remind you of your Love Intention and thus serve to activate it mentally. Through these simple actions, your gemstone can help you focus on an exciting love future and interrupt the noise about past or current disappointments.

Below are three categories of Love Intentions and select stones to go along with them based on both Eastern and Western lore*** . Pick a stone or several (most are inexpensive) and wear them next to your skin as necklaces or rings. Each gemstone is like a string you tie around your finger to remember something.


  • Finding the One
    Rose Quartz heart, Goldstone heart, Lapis
    BTW, in YourTango’s 31-Day Love Life Makeover I gave my mentee, Nadette a silver and lapis bracelet that worked in a mysterious way!
  • Getting a Commitment
    Diamond chips, Jade butterfly (Chinese symbol of successful love), Pearls
  • Increasing Passion/Intimacy in A Relationship
    Moonstone, Sunstone, Fire Quartz Heart

Go shopping and give yourself some gem therapy. You will feel more grounded and focused on the love you want to create. And that much more likely to get it.


*For a review see Swami Shiva Tirtha. The Aryuveda Encyclopedia. (New York: Ayurveda Holistic Center Press, 1998).

**L. Damisch Keep your Fingers Crossed. Doctoral dissertation (July , 2007) available at

***A good overall source beside Swami Tirtha is J. Hall. The Encyclopedia of Crystals. (London: Octopus Publishing Group, 2006).

Article contributed by
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Dr. Diana Kirschner


Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-seller “Love in 90 Days.”

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