If any of the above sounds familiar to you (or your partner), do search for more information using the terms sensory dysfunction, sensory integration, and sensory processing disorder. Then make a list of reactions and situations you've noticed, particularly ones that have disrupted your sex life. You may want to share this information with your partner and create some strategies together. You may be able to solve some problems simply, such as using different bedlinens or moving the humming computer out of the bedroom. If you are in need of professional help, try to find a sex-positive occupational therapist or one who will work in tandem with a clinical sexologist or sex therapist.
Most helping professionals have not yet made the connection between sensory integration problems and sexual difficulties, but its only a matter of time before they stumble over the "walrus" in the bedroom.
(This blog is a revised excerpt from my column originally published in Carnal Nation)