Just letting you know that you do have a C.H.O.I.C.E. in having your relationship be more of how you’d like it to be, including more passionate, more romantic and more loving! Remember the following acronym and it may help and guide you:
C–Character: It’s about ME, understanding my own personality, character, flaws, strengths and triggers.
H– Humility: An understanding that everyone needs to work together. Knowing that everyone makes mistakes and no one person is better than the other.
O–Optimism: It’s about hope and remembering what attracts a couple to each other.
I– Integrity: If your fight was videotaped, would you be proud of how you acted?
C– Care of Self: Individuals need to take care of themselves to make themselves better as a couple.
E– Energy: Understand what drains you and what you can do as a couple to build energy.
The C.H.O.I.C.E. acronym is part of the work of Sue Johnson, Ph.D., a highly renowned researcher of couples therapy working in Canada. I hope that this has been helpful.