Sometimes it is good to create desire, and build up to that arousal.
Again, sexual intimacy, like emotional intimacy is about discovering new parts of yourself and sharing them with your partner. So stretch and try on new attitudes, new ways of being together sexually.
I’m a believer in what I’ve called “all day foreplay.” Start in the morning by telling your partner how you feel about them, and what you’d like to be doing with them when you come home from work. Perhaps leave them a little note with more of your thoughts. Maybe later, send them a text or even a picture! Sexting (sexy texting) can be a VERY effective form of foreplay. Next, maybe an email or a sexy telephone message. Stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone here, maybe just a little bit.
And when you get home, set the stage even more, whether it’s with the traditional flowers and candy or an erotic gift (or toy) or maybe another card or an original poem. Building the anticipation and tension is always so nice, especially when you know you’ll be relieving that tension later on.
I write more about “all day foreplay” and related ideas in my eBook “101 Ways To Bring Back The Passion!” which is available on my Passion 101 Website Here. Hopefully this article has given you a good start though.
As always, I welcome your comments and feedback.