Can Men And Women Be Friends?


Can Men And Women Be Friends?
Dr. Adam Sheck asks his Facebook Fans that perennial question, "Can men and women be friends?"

Can Men And Women Be Friends?

Most of us have struggled with this issue, on whether men and women can be friends in a platonic way or will sex get in the way? Can we "rise" above our impulses or is it a doomed idea? AND, if we CAN be friends with someone of the opposite sex, how does our partner/spouse feel about it?


We've all asked the question, had our own experiences and we've all come to our own conclusions. I recently conducted an informal survey on my Facebook Page, The Passion Doctor, and received very consistent, though contradictory answers from men and women.

Let me share with you some of the responses.


Responses From Women:

From a women perspective yes, but from a man perspective I am not sure ... somehow men always want more.

They can. Sex does tend to get in the way a lot though. :-)

Yes, I can but with my experience it is usually difficult for most males just to be friends:)

I say yes but I know too many men that think otherwise!

Over the years, I've learned that if the male is mature and mentally healthy, it is possible. Sure, like most straight men, he will periodically have sexual thoughts of her, but he will choose not to act on them.

I find it awkward when I'm in a relationship with someone that doesn't believe men/women can be friends SO I tend to shy away from male friends. It can be threatening to relationships and if you have too many male friends, some women view that with a wonky eye as well!

It depends on the individuals involved, their personal ethics and issues, how important the friendship is to them, etc, etc, etc.

In my humble opinion yes they can be as long as they define the boundaries up front - then no one is confused....

I like to be friends with some men but find it difficult...they all want it to lead elsewhere.


Responses From Men:

I don't think so.

It can be difficult but sure its possible. I think its much easier for girls, theres always the "sex" issue for most guys. I have had several "girl" friends in the past and still have one good one ...

If there's little or no sexual interest on either part. Otherwise it gets complicated.

Not if there is a relationship involved, especially if it is the guy in the relationship wanting female friends. women are just more "territorial" when it comes to their men. Not saying it's impossible, just extremely rare.

It is rare and very difficult when in a relationship. My girl friend is not at all comfortable with my friendship [with a woman].


For the most part, women believed that they could be friends with men. At the same time, the majority of the men that answered believed that having a non-sexual relationship with a woman was quite challenging. The two issues that seem to come up in these responses seem to be the issue of sexual tension between the friends and the issue of jealousy from a partner.

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