9 Scientifically Proven Signs Your Marriage Is Built To Last

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You put the "happy" in happily every after!

We all dream of living happily ever after with the love of our life.

And, in pursuit of that dream, more than 6,000 people walk down the aisle in the U.S. each and every day! (FYI: That's more than two million weddings per year.) And a report from Sound Vision estimates that the average wedding costs around $20,000.

But for all of that dreaming of of wedded bliss, 40 to 50 percent of marriages still end in divorce

So, how do you know if YOUR "I do" will make the distance? 

Well, of course you must recognize that marriage is something that couples build on. You cannot simply get married and expect everything to work out fine. It takes hard work, dedication and mutual affection and respect to create a relationship that lasts a lifetime. 

Curious how your marriage is fairing so far? Here are nine signs that your forever love really might last ... forever:  

1. You had an extravagant wedding celebration


Research shows that couples who have a wedding with more than 200 people are 12.5 times less likely to get divorced than couples who celebrate it in small weddings or all alone. So, if you had a large wedding with plenty of guests, that might be a sign that you're in a long-lasting marriage.

2. You're both financially stable


Recent surveys revealed that married couples are 51 percent less likely to divorce when their combined income equals $125,000 or more per year. While money cannot buy love, it definitely helps couples avoid many financial disputes in a relationship. These financial disputes can sometimes spin out of hand and result in divorce.

3. You're open with each other


Opening your heart and exposing your vulnerabilities in a relationship is tough. But it helps you learn more about each other and get to know each other better.

If you and your partner are comfortable with each other and can talk openly, then it is a sign that your marriage can last for a very long time.

4. You focus on the the good instead of the bad


Thinking negative thoughts about your partner causes you to focus on their downfalls and shortcomings. But nobody is perfect.

When you think about your partner in a positive manner, you shift your focus to your partner's good qualities. This makes things much easier and contributes to a long-lasting marriage.

5. You dated for a long time before marrying


A study found that couples who dated for at least three years before getting married are 39 percent less likely to get a divorce. The study suggests that much time spent together before marriage allows a couple to really get to know each other and for an adequate amount of life planning to occur.

6. You went on a honeymoon 


Research tell us that couples who go on honeymoon directly after they get married are 41 percent less likely to get divorced later in life. The honeymoon helps the couple release all of the built up stress that accumulated while planning the wedding, allowing the couple to reconnect and start marriage off on the right foot.  

7. You don't care about looks


While some people consider looks and wealth an important factor when they choose a partner, research suggests that couples who focus more on inner beauty than on outer looks and wealth are 50 percent less likely to divorce.

8. You understand each other's Language Of Love


The Association for Psychological Science suggests that how couples communicate often predicts the success rate of their relationship and marriage.

When two individuals are in a relationship for a long time, they start to pick up on each other's habits and even start to speak the same "language." They also learn each other's unique Love Language. This makes spending many years together a much more pleasant experience. 

9. You fight fair


Fighting is natural for a couple, married or not. Conflicts will com eup that need resolution. When fighting in the relationship is fair and both parties focus on the specific conflict instead of screaming and talking down to each other, it's a sign of a healthy marriage that will last.

Thousands of people get married every single day.

Many of these marriages end up in divorce. Analyzing your relationship can be a great way to get a clear picture about the current health and status of your "happy marriage." 

The nine signs above offer visible evidence that you and the love of your life really may end up living happily ever after. Congratulations! 




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