7. Exploit your virtual environments, not just your physical ones. People are living beyond their geographic borders, talking, sharing, and interacting with people from all over the world through the wonders of technology. Connect with people through blogs, groups, and virtual support networks. Connect with people with similar interests so divorce isn't the only thing you’re living right now. Life continues. Choose something you can’t wait to do! Build and connect with everyone you can. The more people you interact with out of choice, the more energized and engaged in life you'll be. In doing this, you'll also build a new life and a thriving future.
8. Figure out what energizes you. Then, design a life where you are surrounded by your energizers. You're going to need more energy than ever before. If you can design your environment to feed those sources of energy, you can operate at a higher level. This is even more important when you go through stressful situations. The more energy you have, the better you can deal with the emotions that will bombard you through your divorce. The more aware you are of when and how your energy is depleted, the faster you can replenish it and deal with whatever comes your way.
9. Dream big. Choose goals that are bigger than you ever dreamed you could be. Be pulled forward by your goals instead of having to push yourself through from one day to the next. Fill your life with things you've always wanted to do but never did because your spouse didn't like it or want it, or you didn't have time. Whatever reasons you had before, they no longer apply. If you choose huge goals fueled by dreams, even while you're getting through this challenge in your life, nothing will stop you from embracing life and diving right in!
10. Heal emotionally. Number 10 says it all. Do whatever it is you have to do to heal. Emotional baggage will weigh you down forever and keep you from enjoying life. Learn who you are, your talents, strengths, and what gives you joy and energy. Learn who you are independent of another person or partner. Once you've healed and really know who you are and what you want, then you can give to a relationship of your choice based on who you've become, not who you used to be or as defined by your spouse. Define yourself according to you, not someone else then accept and celebrate that person. You are worth it!