Depression affects not only you, but also the people around you.
There has been a rise in the diagnosis of clinical depression in adults, close to epidemic proportions, and this rise is showing no signs of stopping. About 20 percent of the population today is diagnosed with some kind of depression. This percentage excludes those who feel down for a few days and get better afterwards, It's the proportion of people who have a medical condition and cannot function properly in their life as a result.
The biggest sufferers from depression:
Besides the patient themselves, depression can take a heavy toll on those around them. Those who suffer from depression usually have typical symptoms such as disruption of a normal routine in their life, perpetual laziness, under/over-eating and even a complete lack of acknowledgement towards their family members and their responsibilities.
Your children suffer the most when you are depressed.
Schools in the country today are indicative of the effects of depression of a parent on the children The pupils fail to even sit, be attentive or behave themselves properly. An increasing number of students are being placed in special education programs as well. The number of children being prescribed Ritalin (drug used in the treatment of ADHD) is also alarmingly increasing.
While different people blame different things, child therapists conclude that a troubled child is usually a consequence of depressed parents. While you may think that your child's bad behavior is the cause of your mental stress, the truth could be the mirror image. Your depression may be the cause of your child's present state. There have been cases where children develop phobias after their parents leave the home in their depressed state, which caused them to perform poorly in their academic studies.
Sometimes your depression, coupled with your child's troublesome nature, may cause you to isolate yourself from your child by sending them to a boarding school, or to relatives. Likewise, extreme cases of depression can also cause the child to run away from home. What you need to understand is that your child's bad behavior is basically a desperate call for attention. They want to jolt you out of the lethargic and inattentive state your depression has left you in, so you can be their caring parent again.
Research has also shown that the consequences of a mother's depression start to affect her child from babyhood. If you feel constantly down after giving childbirth, you may be unable to cater to the demands of your newborn child adequately. This will cause them to appear inactive, unhappy, discomforted etc.
They will also grow up to be troublesome toddlers who will further increase your depressed state. If you get your depressive condition treated in due time, you can save your troubled child. If not, your child could suffer the fatalities among teenagers with depressed parents who adopt vices such as substance abuse, self-harm or have lowly opinions of themselves.
Marriages are also greatly affected by a depressed spouse.
Depression does not directly lead to divorce. But letting it grow unchecked can set in motion a chain of consequences and effects that often destroys marriages and everything that has been built around them. Since depression can lead to abnormal eating and sleeping habits, as well as cause you to become inattentive, your soul mate can suffer significantly because of it. You are unable to put in your effort in conversing, helping around the house or expressing love. You sometimes even rebuff the attempts of your spouse to be supportive and understanding. If this sound slike you, your marriage is at serious risk of breaking down.
Typically, depression works by making you so unhappy with your life that you begin to see everything in a negative light. Your feelings of inadequacy and lack of purpose will lead you to cut yourself off from everyone. Including your spouse, who suffers greatly as a result. You may also begin to see their every action negatively leading to disagreements and nothing you do together will be fun anymore. With time, your partner may begin to experience irritability and anger in return.
Sex plays a big role in happy, successful marriage. But depression will make sure that your desire for love and intimacy with your partner decreases rapidly. Moments of emotional closeness will also end, destroying the close bond between you and your spouse.
Your depression may cause you to feel tied down by the less than cordial relationship which triggers the typical blame game between you and your partner. Just as you see their actions negatively, your spouse will also give in to their feelings of frustration at your apparent lack of activity and cooperation. Both of you will be exchanging blames about the bad things happening in your relationship.
Depression has proven itself to be one of the leading causes of troubled families and suicides in the U.S. If you find yourself irrationally unhappy or lethargic for more than a couple of weeks, you can visit Winnipeg therapist. Begin to work on putting an end to your potential depression as early as possible, before its darker symptoms begin to manifest in your personal life and take over everything and everyone you hold dear.