But the joke was on the reader, the would-be seducer. The entire book is about "S/A Hypnotism" – "Self-Administered Hypnotism" – what we usually call self-hypnosis. The book teaches the reader to take himself into a trance and use self-hypnosis to gain better self-esteem, more confidence and to get over his shyness and discomfort in talking to women. In other words, by doing some work on yourself, you will be able to have normal, relaxed conversations and relationships with women.
Hypnosis is not truth serum, and it won’t work as a way to control other people (unless they want you to control them). It is in fact a consensual process. As I tell my clients, you are always aware, on some level, that you are in a hypnotic state, and if ever anything doesn’t suit you, you will either just ignore it or you’ll come out of hypnosis altogether. The language we use, “I hypnotize you” – an active verb – is inaccurate. In reality, I don’t do anything to you – you do it: all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. The hypnotist is the guide; to be hypnotized you must let yourself be guided. Creating a New Year's Relationship Resolution
Good luck, guys!