The Secret To Making Your Marriage Last


The Secret To Making Your Marriage Last [EXPERT]
We all know what it takes to keep a marriage alive but are we brave enough to do it?

The inescapable truth is that the only thing that makes a lasting relationship is unconditional love. No partner is perfect enough to live up to our expectations. As long as love is conditioned on the fulfillment of expectations, it's only a matter of time until the relationship comes apart. The only way to keep it together is for each partner to accept the other completely, without trying to change him or her and to let him or her grow into more of his or her real self as the relationship goes along.

2. There is good in "staking yourself to the battlefield."


In the past, there have been societies in which warriors had a custom of staking themselves to the battlefield. They would tie a cord to one ankle, attach the cord to a stake and drive the stake deep into the ground so that, no matter how afraid they became in the battle, they were prevented from running away. They would fight until they died or until they won the battle.

Traditionally, the institution of marriage has worked in a similar way, keeping partners from fleeing the battlefield of their relationship. Standing up among your friends and peers and vowing to stay together until parted by death is quite a serious thing. And, the societal and religious pressures against divorce have also been severe. But, nowadays these things seem to have little effect. We've become a society of serial monogamists, staying in each marriage only until it becomes too unpleasant and never learning to accept or love someone unconditionally, to let them be exactly who they are. Not being staked to the battlefield, we simply walk away and start again with someone else.

3. Marriage in the "Age of Aquarius" will drastically change.

As we enter the Aquarian Age, what will happen to marriage? We've come through a history of arranged marriages, till-death-do-us-part marriages and we're moving quickly away from that. We're moving away from any kind of official marriage. This very day, on the television news, it was reported that only 51% of couples in the U.S. are now officially married. "Perfect" Married Couples: As Happy As We Think?

We're told that the Aquarian Age will be characterized by the love of liberty and freedom from stuffy conventions. Is marriage one of those conventions that is on its way out? In an age where equality and friendship will predominate, will the concept of tying ourselves to one partner for life make any sense? And, if not, how will we learn to love someone unconditionally?

I don't know the answers to these questions but I am hoping that many of you reading this will comment with your thoughts!

See what's new at Reiki, Shinki, Macrobiotics

Please take a look at

See the full list of YourTango articles by Don Beckett (in chronological order)

To Read Great Sex Advice:

Latest Expert Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular