High emotional drama people - This person will personalize every word or gesture and use it to magnify any emotional moment. You will feel like you are walking gingerly through landmines in hopes of not setting off the explosions. If any of these emotional missiles strike you, you will be defending yourself constantly. Using the moving away movement and increasing the distance between the two of you will minimize any damage. By moving to a suitable emotional distance, you will become more of an observer and no longer absorbing all this energy in your body.
Extremely distrusting people - Let’s say you are with a partner who has great difficulty trusting any intimate expressions and you are becoming exhausted in trying to prove that you love and care for him. Each attempt seems to be discounted and has no impact. This may be a time for you to move up and tap into your unconditional love and acceptance and stop all ways of proving your love. When your partner says that he or she doesn’t trust that you care or love them, you merely say, “I understand what you believe about me,” and just look at them lovingly saying “I love you” as you effortlessly hold that position. Of course, they will express doubt as to your sincerity, but you are to remain calm and make no change in your statement or your loving feeling. You will just hold your loving container as long as they remain in disbelief.
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So I hope I have provided you with a new way of looking at people and the challenges that they present, along with showing you a greater variety of ways of approaching them. You need to remember to look at the five movements that are available to you in a given moment rather than becoming fixated on the other person’s behavior. Then after choosing the movement that you sense would be most effective, make a commitment that you will sustain that movement as long as the other person remains in their position. Do not change the movement until you feel in your body that the “difficult” person has made a real shift in their attitude or behavior. Even if they make no change, you are no longer reactive and have taken care of yourself. Each time that you are able to adopt this new flexibility, your sense of empowerment will greatly increase.