Learn from them.
Relationships, especially sexual ones, can be a slippery slope if you don’t understand your man’s sexuality. And, of course, the pun was intended!
If you want to know how to satisfy your man in bed, this will amplify your emotional connection at the same time.
1. Don’t make him feel bad for wanting sex.
A mature man doesn’t just want sex from his relationship, (unless he’s one of those creepy pick-up-artist wannabes), real masculine men want to be present with you — and sex is one of the most fun ways for him to be present, forget about work, bills, kids, and feel emotionally connected with you.
2. Let him see you.
Men are visual creatures. According to Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam’s A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Worlds’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire say in Psychology Today, "Men’s greater sex drive may be partially due to the fact that their sexual motivation pathways have more connections to the subcortical reward system than in women” [or, in short] “men’s brains are designed to objectify females."
When he looks at a beautiful woman — and this includes you — he can’t help it and it is good for his body and your relationship. That’s a good thing.
When he sees you with your glow from the candles by your bed, he will become more turned on. Not only physically — which you can see for yourself — but he will also be turned on psychologically.
So don’t turn off all the lights. Instead, cast a spell on him by throwing a sheer scarf over your lamp and let the light shine on your beautiful body tonight, or even better yet, in the morning.
3. Own your body.
Every man has different tastes in women’s bodies. Some like small breasts and other guys love a D cup.
Remember the things your partner has said about your body that he loves. It can be your eyes, your back, your curves, or you juicy booty. He is with you because he likes you and your body.
I like to use thought shifting to change any negative thoughts.
If you say something like "Oh God! My thighs are huge!", tell yourself something a little less critical about them instead. Shift that thought to: "My legs are perfect for getting me around every day with ease. I am so lucky to have them."
You are not telling yourself that you have legs like Naomi Campbell. Instead, you are reminding yourself that your legs are amazing and different than hers and still have wonderful benefits. In this way, you are being more gentle and kind with yourself.
Re-framing your thoughts to something slightly less negative will have a powerful impact on your self-esteem and body image.
4. Make him pass the test.
I know every man isn’t going to communicate his feelings as well as your best friend from third grade. So let him talk about it in a more directed and simple way to communicate that will makes it easy for him to tell you what he likes.
When you’re in the bedroom and you’re not sure which way he likes you to touch him the best (he might like all the ways), give him a multiple choice test — just like in middle school.
You can make it very playful. Here is a script for you: "I love being with you physically and I want to know exactly what turns you on because it turns me on to make you feel good. I have a sexual game I just heard about. It’s called 7 Questions.
"First, I’m going to ask you a question and then I’m going to give you multiple choice answers while I touch you here and there, like this and that to your luscious body. I’ll do you first, then you can do me next. Wanna play?"
Question: Do you like you when I touch you:
- With firmness?
- With my nails scratching you?
- With a pulsing action?
- With my teeth nibbling you here?
I think you get the picture. You can use the script I provided, or you can make up your own questions. This can turn into a very fun game where it will make both of you feel closer and get to know each other's bodies so much better.
You can give him options to choose from and let him pick his favorite. This is a playful way for you to get to know his tastes and then he will know exactly how to touch you. After you play this game, you will know exactly how to keep your man satisfied in bed. What are you waiting for?
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