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Monogamy Or Polyamory: Which One Is Right For You?

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Monogamy Or Polyamory: Which One Is Right For You? [EXPERT]
Three isn't necessarily a crowd.
When it comes to your love-lifestyle, it's important to know what you want.

According to Internet World Stats, the most recent number of online users was 360,983,482. The word "monogamous" was searched 135,000 times on Google in one month. That's a measly .037% of Googlers looking for monogamy, at least in their Google search box.

In comparison, the word "polyamory" was searched on Google 110,000  times worldwide. That's a whopping .030% looking for polygamous information online in one month. Are these stats an indicator of what kinds of relationships people are looking for? Or are they just numbers?

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My monogamous friends would say being monogamous is challenging, but they wouldn't have it any other way, and they can't imagine life without their partner. However, my more openly loving, polyamorous friends wouldn't have their lives any other way, either. Has the way we look at monogamy changed? Does the meaning of 'monogamy' mean something different than it did during your parents generation?

Bad Online Dates did a year-long relationship survey with hundreds of responses, mostly from North America. Here's the breakdown:

  • 67% said they do not believe they were born to be with one person only.
  • 78.3% said they would have a threesome.
  • 60% would not disclose to their partner they had sex with a hotel bartender.
  • 31% think that sometimes, cheating is okay.

Take into consideration that this is coming from a website called "Bad Online Dates." Is the high number of polyamory-friendly responses the reason why these people are having bad dates? Are a large number of the participants really more on the polyamorous side of the fence, and not on the path to monogamy? Are these folks more interested in making out with the bartender and not their partner? Top 10 Traits All Singles Are Searching For

It's possible that these survey takers just haven't found themselves a compatible partner, or perhaps, they're just not ready for monogamy.

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The founder of "Bad Online Dates", Jennifer Kelton actually wants to turn these bad date experiences into positive ones. This website is a place where single and dating folks can turn to for support during their string of bad date stories. You can read hundreds of bad online dating stories.

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