The real horror movie reason why he didn't call.
You mentioned your ex but only for a minute. It was just a little story. No biggie, right? You thought bringing this up was a good idea? You didn't drone on on about what happened. You quickly and casually mentioned that after your husband Joel cheated on you, you decided to get make the split. That segued into you telling your date that your ex also had a split personality.
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After about five months you started dating again. You had found someone you really liked. Your ex, who now also calls himself Jim Bob, had made several calls at 3 a.m to your new boyfriend and was a little more than threatening. Your last boyfriend got a little spooked and is now your ex-boyfriend and the same thing happened to the guy before him.
Could that story be why he didn't call? Why yes, it is. You could be labled as psycho after telling this much info to your frightened first date. There's no need to sugar coat this one or make up a dramatic horror movie scene in your head. You gave your date way too much information. When it comes to past relationships, less information is way less scary. Is your past ruining your dating life?
If your date asks about why you got divorced, you can leave out all of the gory details. You can say something simple like this: "We had our differences and grew apart. It was for the best." And then you can move on to appreciating this moment with your date and you can ask him what he likes to do for fun.
Don't be closed up like a coffin if he asks you a question, but don't let all of your skeletons out of the closet when you're getting to know a new guy. Keep the details of your scary movie style divorce off the table. But men do love suspenseful thrillers — so keep him on the edge of his seat in the beginning of your new single movie. Leave a sense of mystery and anticipation. Do you put too much value on a man?
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After all, this guy was a first date and he was not your next husband. There are plenty of single men all around, he was not the end all be all. And come to think of it, his car looked pretty dirty and it was actually a little bit scary. Remember, don't tell him everything about your past relationship because you don't want your date thinking you or your ex are anything like your old pal Norman. Learn how to be a Goddess, not a psycho here with Dina's free e-book.