Spending Holidays with In-Laws Can Make Or Break Your Marriage
If you want to keep your marriage going strong during the holidays, you might not want to spend too much time with your in-laws. On the other hand, you want to spend more time with them. It depends if you are going to your husband’s parents in Connecticut or your parent’s 1940’s bungalow down the street.
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If you’re single, you can listen to one of the most hip speaker/ psychologist/ researchers I know, wrap up her words and your newfound knowledge with a pretty red bow and share it with yourself and your next love.
I’ve been chatting with Dr. Terri L Orbuch PhD, author of the new book "Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship" and she has some interesting conclusions from her years of marital research.
Terri, aka "The Love Doctor," has been peering into the lives of 373 married couples for over 26 years, in a scientific study funded by the National Institute of Health on some very important topics… marriage, divorce and love, three of my personal favorites.
The holidays can be an especially tricky time for relationships the one you have with yourself, and the one you have with your partner if you are in a relationship. I remember crying my eyes out after an incident that happened in my marriage, before our trip to my husband’s parent’s house for Christmas. I had purchased rather large gift cards for his side of the family, and I left them in the car for our trip. Use the law of attraction to amp up your love life.
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We were heading out, on our supposedly joyful holiday jaunt to his family’s house, and I started looking for the gift cards. I thought I left them on the car seat, but I couldn’t find them anywhere. I asked my husband if he had done something with them. He had apparently done what he thought was a good dead and cleaned all the paper "garbage" out of the car, and burned it. This included any receipts, to-do lists and a bag filled with his family’s cardstock-paper thin presents.
Holidays can be stressful enough without having your presents burned at the stake. But there were more than gift cards at stake that year. Our relationship was also at stake. It was slowly going up in flames and I wish I would have known about Dr. Terri Orbuch’s research then.