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Survey Says Get Lucky For Only $218 On Valentines Day

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A new study shows exactly how much a man needs to spend to get some action in the bedroom on Feb 14

After a little Valentine’s Day swooning with I love you to the moon and back cards, a dozen long stemmed roses wrapped in red tissue paper and a fancy dinner, is your man expecting some kind of bedroom reward? You betcha.

How much money does a guy have to spend to get lucky on Valentine’s Day anyway? I’ve got some data from a 2013 survey with thousands of respondents that will tell you exactly how much men are spending on the ladies in hopes that a little romancing will have a big bedroom payoff.

But first an epic breakup story. I was chatting with a good guy friend of mine, who starting talking about Valentine’s Day while we were lounging in the hot tub at a local hotel. He asked me what I thought about the whole V-Day thing. I said something like “Oh it’s OK, it’s kind-of commercialized though.”

The straw that broke this man’s back in his last relationship was you guessed it, Valentine’s Day. He felt pressure to swoon, seduce, buy jewelry and flowers. He told me that his ex made such a big deal about Valentine’s Day that it made him want to do even less for her. He made her dinner every other day of the week, didn’t that count for something? How to appreciate your bad ex-boyfriends.

How many gold rings, golden colored boxes filled with chocolate filled chocolates, long stemmed roses sprayed with that fresh from the flower shop smell (that all the flowers smell like) and heart-shaped crab cakes, did this guy need to buy to keep the relationship going? Apparently he needed to buy more and give more to this woman than he was willing to give. But there is much more to relationships than how much money you spend on Valentine’s Day. If you over give during the holidays, learn how to stop being a doormat!

The premier sugar baby website, Seeking Arrangements, surveyed 9000 women about their last 3 Valentine’s Day estimates. Seeking Arrangements came up with the perfect number that men need to spend in order to “get lucky.” Grab your hats boys, and your wallets, that number is a whopping $218!

Seeking Arrangements then surveyed 8300 men. 77% of these men looked at Valentine’s Day as a milestone of beginning a new relationship or a way to get some action after the romantic candle-lit dinner for two.

The average single man spent on Valentine’s Day, was $257 with most of that hard-earned cash going towards dinner or an activity, in the hopes of some after-activity umm… activity, if you get my drift.

The married men spent the majority of their $203 on presents. I wonder why this is? Maybe they thought they had spent enough time together, so presents were the way to go. Go to store. Buy Card. Go to store next to the other store. Buy Gift. Give gift to woman. Have Sex. V-Day is officially over after his beautiful lady hopefully sings.

This data was from a sugar daddy and sugar baby dating site, so for normal guys wanting a little sugar, and not a sugar baby, could get away with less than $218 in my survey-less, dating expert guesstimation.

The men who were not married, but were in committed relationships, spent the majority of their $203 on gifts for the lucky lady. Jewelry and perfume were probably on the list, and I hope these men in bought gifts because all of the other woman’s needs were completely fulfilled in affection, adoration, "I love you" and soulful gazes. Or maybe they bought gifts in hopes of receiving the biggest gift a woman can share with a man.

My now single guy friend, who was sick and tired of hearing about Valentine’s day, might not be single if his girlfriend would have told him how important Valentine’s Day was to her in the right way.

From what I gathered, she said everything in the wrong way, using words like “you never buy me anything for Valentine’s Day, you jerk!” And if she would have learned to communicate to her man in an effective simple way, their relationship may still be going on this February 14. Make this the year to learn what works with men and what doesn't. 

Valentine’s day is filled with hope of new romance or bringing back that spark into a relationship that has been maybe a little less than sizzling.

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