The 7 Step Cookie Jar Method To Have An Epic Dating Life & Great Communication
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A man I know, who I kind-of met online, and kind-of met in a coffee shop, have become great friends and you can guess what our favorite topics is… relationships.
We’re always discussing the way women and men work together, why we disconnect, what bugs us, what we like, and what can make our dating, love and relationship lives Epic. The best free dating advice I can give to you any day, is to have communication, communication and even better communication. I want for everyone to have Epic Communication
Being a good communicator does not mean talking constantly. It is so much more than that.
My Epic Dating buddy sent me a message on Facebook the other day, and it really got me thinking. He said he’s been chatting with a new woman who is smart, educated and attractive. But he saw one big red flag. She talks so much and he can barely get a word in.
He wanted to clarify the difference between talking and chatting. Did he quit calling because you talk too much?
He said “talking is high quality communication in which both people flow back and forth between speaking and listening. Chatting is nonstop speaking with little attention paid to whether the listener is actually engaged, and actively ignoring disinterested body language.”
Do you want to be the annoying, unaware, chatty Cathy? Do like it when someone talks “at” you and not with you?
My friend asked if women consider it rude behavior. My vote it a big YES. He also said he finds it very unattractive and has observed this behavior in MANY women. I hope you are not one of these women, but when you get into your head, you are not paying attention.
So when you are meeting someone new what are you doing? Does he think you are crazy?
If you feel nervous and want to fill the space up with your voice, you need to practice the art of being present. Buddhists call this mindfulness.
Being mindful will help you in every area of your life and especially with every relationship. I’ve developed a simple tool using the art of cookies to give you a visual you can use when you are in an actual conversation.
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Dina Z Colada’s Cookie Jar Method for great communication that comes from my Epic Dating, Love & Relationship Kit.
You can practice this Cookie Jar Widget by yourself to become more mindful first.