Seeking Attention Vs. Paying Attention

Pay attention to logic

Aside from how you handle yourself in relationships, paying attention means thinking things through and weighing consequences. In other words, you’ll have a much better quality of life if you pay attention to the rules of logic—if I do this, this is likely to happen, and that’s a great result, or that’s something I want to avoid, so I won’t do the thing I was considering doing—instead of bouncing from impulse to impulse trying to get people to pay attention to you. Seeking attention is what kids do; paying attention is what reasonable adults do. If reading this makes you realize that you’re on the side of seeking attention, rather than paying attention, therapy can help you shift to a more adult and satisfying way of functioning.

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