Play by the Rules!

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Play by the Rules!
Making rules for your partner means you've cast yourself as the parent and your partner as the kid.

If you’re a rule-maker, rule-breaker, or rule-follower in your relationship, you can make good use of treatment to understand why you want to function in this way.  Therapy can be a tremendous help in understanding how your worldview developed to the point of either believing you know how others should behave or that others know how you should behave! Rules are about dependency, and counseling helps you learn what’s important to you and how you want to behave, rather than deciding for other people or letting other people decide for you!

 

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Diane Spear, LCSW-R

Counselor/Therapist

Diane Spear, LCSW-R, is a NYC-based psychotherapist who helps couples and individuals throughout the world find the joy in everyday life! She has been in practice since 1995, working with older adolescents up through older adults. Check out her website at www.dianespeartherapy.com to learn more about her therapy and counseling practice and couples and relationship therapy; and be sure to read her blog.

Connect with Diane through email here, or call 212-353-0296

 

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LCSW-R
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Life Transitions
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