Family Language

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Family Language
The emotional language of childhood attracts you to familiar people and situations: chemistry.

This plays out in the world of work, too. Have you known someone who has had one abusive boss after the other, or has found something horribly wrong with every company where he or she works? Well, who's the common denominator in all of these work situations? This person! Who's the common denominator in a string of failed, unsatisfying relationships? This person! Is this random or "destined"? When I say destined, I don't mean some magical force at work. I mean that the person is "primed" through the family language of childhood for these ultimately unsatisfying situations. 

If you've been in a number of unsatisfying jobs and/or relationships, therapy can help you understand the family language you learned and its effects on your life today—and learn a new language that will help you function in a different way, so that you can override the pull to familiar dissatisfaction and be able to make room for joy in your everyday life.  

Article contributed by

Diane Spear, LCSW-R

Counselor/Therapist

Diane Spear, LCSW-R, is a NYC-based psychotherapist who helps couples and individuals throughout the world find the joy in everyday life! She has been in practice since 1995, working with older adolescents up through older adults. Check out her website at www.dianespeartherapy.com to learn more about her therapy and counseling practice and couples and relationship therapy; and be sure to read her blog.

Connect with Diane through email here, or call 212-353-0296

 

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LCSW-R
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Life Transitions
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