You finally attempt online dating. You did your best to make sure your online profile was interesting and your pictures were attractive.
It’s been a week, but so far no one has tried to contact you. You start to question your decision to try online dating and begin to weigh your options against going to back to the usual bars and clubs. However, you can’t help but wonder what went wrong…
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Not to worry, this is normal for online dating, and this dating advice for women will help you understand how to take what feels like rejection and turn the situation around.
First, you should know that nothing went wrong.
Not everyone is going to get a response the day they post their online dating profile.
Since the people online don’t actually know you, you can’t realistically take this as rejection. Just think about it, there are usually thousands of users on dating websites, and just like you, they are filtering through profiles.
Even when you’re anxious to get the show on the road, the worst mistake you can make is contacting people over and over.
This can be a quick turn off, and could possibly make you seem like a stalker. This may seem comical in your eyes, but website developers take this very serious and will even cancel your membership if they receive reports about multiple messages.
Wouldn’t you think it was weird if a guy on an online dating website started emailing you over and over again?
One of the best things you can do is contact as many people as you find interesting. Contact one to three people at a time could definitely have you waiting weeks for a response.
However, if you send out as many as 20 contact initiations, you are more likely to receive a response.
If you are one that gets rejection emails, you should consider editing your profile. Read Creating a Great Online Dating Profile.
Be sure to have information about yourself that is interesting and honest. You may want to use a different profile picture.
If you need help with your profile, consider browsing other profiles for eye catching details and read Posting a Great online Dating Profile Picture.
You may also want to take advantage of any advice that the dating website has to offer when creating your profile.
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Remember, the most important thing is to not give up. Despite Disney and Hallmark try to make you believe, these things don’t happen over night; it takes time to find Mr. Right. My goal in providing dating advice for women is to offer women a realistic view of what is going on.
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