Most of the bisexual men I have encountered have not revealed their same-sex affairs with their wives. In some cases, the fear of societal rejection kept them closeted, while others felt they had good marriages and did not want to risk losing their wives by revealing their sexual encounters.
For most of these men, it's about sex, not about love. The problem is there are consequences when we keep a major part of our lives hidden. It may not result in the loss of marriage but it can result in the loss of self-esteem and personal integrity. In fact, researchers at Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health found that rates of depression and anxiety are common in men who conceal their same-sex affairs.
Science and the study of human sexuality will continue to help us better understand why we are the way we are. The bisexual stigma of being confused or too afraid to "come out" will no doubt change with conversation and sexual education.
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