Why Every Woman Should Experiment With S&M

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Why Every Woman Should Experiment With S&M [EXPERT]
Find out how BDSM can help you connect with your body, heart and mind in a meaningful way!

"This same lower brain activity is still active in the human female brain. The difference is that you also have this evolved upper part of your brain. The upper brain is where you store your values, beliefs and morals, which have been compiled through social conditioning. As women of Western culture, social conditioning teaches you the exact opposite thinking to your primitive brain: that women are men's equals, that submission in any form is a bad thing, and that you can be as strong and dominant as men are which is true in most respects," John said. "Perfect" Married Couples: As Happy As We Think?

"But, what sometimes happens is that the two parts of a woman's brain are at war. She knows she is an independent, self-sufficient person, capable of forging and managing her own life. Yet, secretly or subconsciously, she may dream or fantasize about submitting to a man sexually all the while berating herself for doing so because she judges her thoughts as weak, clingy or abnormal," John explained.

 

John's explanation not only resonated me but it left me yearning to learn more. I had falsely thought that D/s was about one person abusing another. I also thought it involved extreme and freaky behavior like hanging from the ceiling tied up or wearing a dog collar and licking men's shoes.

In its truest form, a D/s relationship is all about the submissive: her wants, her needs and her fantasies. The dom's job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough and connected enough with him to unleash her creativity and explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart and mind in much deeper ways. And, whew! What's not alluring about that?!

Ladies, are you allured or repulsed by BDSM? Do you relegate it to fantasy only or do you explore it in reality?

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