What Do You Really Want?

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What Do You Really Want?

What do you want? I’m not talking about unlimited books, a trip to Paris, a perfect relationship or a killer wardrobe that fits your ideal body. I’m asking you what your heart most desires so that your soul can soar.

The thing is, having any one – or all – of those things doesn’t automatically make life perfect. Eventually, you’ll get tired of the perfect man and reading books in Paris café’s. Because- no matter where you go and who you are with – there you are.

 

You need to learn about your wants. Not just the surface desires for physical things – and the roles society expects you to play. If you don’t gain clarity around your deepest desires, then everything that is, on the surface, perfect, won’t feel that way.

There is no magic pill – no magic place – no magic person – that will “fix” things for you. You are not broken and do not need to be fixed. You just need to gain clarity around what you most want in life.

Sure, you’ve made your mistakes, but the emotional baggage, battle scars, grey hairs, and laugh lines are a part of your hero’s journey. Embracing the shiny – and tarnished – parts of myself allow me to be in love with who I am in this moment, who I was in the past, and who I will be tomorrow.

You deserve to be the most playful, sassy, and sexy version of you.

The right coach can help you discover the shine that gleams beneath the layers of life and moving in the right direction. And by right direction, it’s not one that anyone chooses but you. Only you can define what happy looks like to you. Only you can define what satisfaction feels like.

I know that this is scary. Many of my clients have told me they were afraid of the answers even more than of the questions. Change is scary for all of us.

But time, and time again, I have also witnessed the discovery of that one elegant idea or pivotal question that sparked that first step to begin living life fully.

I have faith in you. Faith that you can find your heart’s desires. That you can be happy. That you can feel joyful and satisfied and proud. Faith that you can discover the answers that are right there inside you. Answers that will guide you beyond the pain, the numbness, and the fear of simply existing.

You deserve to live a daily life you love. Begin with asking yourself  “What do I want”. And answering it with truth.

Not sure where to start? Let me share my tips and tricks for figuring out what you really want.

Debra Smouse is a Tarnished Southern Belle who found the keys to unleash her own Inner Sex Kitten and would love to share it with you. Visit her website or connect with her on Twitter or Facebook.

This article was originally published at Debra Smouse. Reprinted with permission.
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Debra Smouse

Life Coach

You deserve to live a daily life you adore. When you listen to your heart, you can purposefully choose actions to move you towards how you want to feel.

Tarnished Southern Belle (and life coach) Debra Smouse can help you de-tangle the drama in your life, push away the need for perfection, and show you how to create a daily life that you love.

Ready to ditch resolutions and choose a "theme" for your year instead? Get some help with my free e-Book Create a Year You Love: Choosing Your 2015 Touchstones.

Location: Dayton, OH
Credentials: BS
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