Don't Pursue Happiness: Choose To Be Happy Now

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Don't Pursue Happiness: Choose To Be Happy Now

I'm going to share a secret to happiness that most folks wouldn't want me to divulge, so listen close. The secret to becoming enchanted with my life is finding a deep love for what my current reality is.

Here's the deal, kitten: when we choose to focus on what we don’t have, we are living in a state of constant reaching and searching and grabbing. Now, instead of searching for the next big thing that I thought I needed in order to be happy or satisfied with myself, I find contentment in the imperfection of little moments.

I stopped the if-then way of surviving and began to consciously live. No more waiting to lose twenty pounds, finish my novel, or waiting to check all of those bucket list things off my bucket list in order to see myself as worthy or loveable or happy, I have chosen to accept how things are in the now.

Instead of searching for happiness, I choose to be happy now.

I became smitten with myself when I began to recognize the beauty that existed in my daily life. I became enchanted with my life as I came to understand that the feelings I desired and the things I wanted in my life were already present.

Is my life perfect? Of course not. Life isn’t meant to be perfect, darling. There is a special beauty in the imperfect moments. Have I simply stopped trying to make life BIGGER or Bolder? No, darling I haven’t settled for less. I still have big dreams to make a part of my reality and I pursue those dreams with passion. I learned to accept who I am in this moment and know that life will change because we are constantly evolving creatures. Life is not meant to stay the same.

As you create a plan to make your dreams a reality, you stop living for the future and looking to having wishes come true one day. That kind of thinking can blind you to what’s fabulous now. Because, darling, what’s magical is that you can begin to understand that by loving what is, your dreams are already closer than you think. They are here and now.

Let me share my best tools and tricks for becoming besotted with the art of living. My upcoming group coaching circle, Make Your Inner Sex Kitten Roar begins April 27, 2014.

Debra Smouse is a Tarnished Southern Belle who discovered that when she fell in love with her life, it loved her right back. Visit her website or connect with her on Twitter or Facebook.

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Debra Smouse

Life Coach

You deserve to live a daily life you adore. When you listen to your heart, you can purposefully choose actions to move you towards how you want to feel.

Tarnished Southern Belle (and life coach) Debra Smouse can help you de-tangle the drama in your life, push away the need for perfection, and show you how to create a daily life that you love.

Want to get help taking that first step in creating meaningful goals? Get crystal clear with my free e-Book Listen to Your Heart: Design a Daily Life You Adore.

Location: Dayton, OH
Credentials: BS
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