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Make The Choice To Pursue Your OWN Happiness


Choose independence. Choose happiness.

It seems like only yesterday we were celebrating a new year, now we're halfway through 2015 with the 4th of July Holiday in our rearview mirror. The signs of Fall and heading back to school are imminent. So, we plan one last trip to the beach, one last summer BBQ and one last carefree day of no alarm clocks.

Did you begin 2015 with the best intentions of making your resolutions stick this year? The arrival of July may cause you to feel a little panicky. Maybe you swore you’d get healthy this year and are skipping your workouts and dining via the drive through. Maybe you swore that this was the year you’d finish your novel and believe you haven’t made enough progress towards completing it.

You long to bring your dreams into your reality, but lack of progress frustrates you.Sometimes, it just feels easier to throw in the towel, but you don’t have to panic and you don’t have to give up until next year.

Our forefathers wrote in the Declaration of Independence that we had the unalienable right for life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

So, let’s be frank, darling, what would make you happy?

I remember the days when I believed that happiness wasn’t in the cards for me. I believed that I was forever stuck being in an unsatisfying and passionless marriage believing that because my kids weren’t perfect, I was a crappy mother. I believed that my only escape could be found in work and in books.

I thought about living a life that felt nourishing and fully engaged, but deep down believed that it would never happen.

Want to know how I finally got happy? I decided I wanted to BE happy.

The truth is each and every one of us has a choice to create the kind of life we dream about. You're never too old, too fat, too far gone or too tied to the fate of your upbringing or circumstances to move forward and change.

Choosing yourself and choosing to pursue your own happiness is the most valuable work you can do in the world because you, my darling, are worth it.

You get to choose to grab the reins of your own life. So, make the decision that you are going to BE happy, and then take that first tiny step towards what you desire.

That’s it , the secret to happiness is to decide that you're going to pursue your own happiness.

Sometimes, our dreams seem incredibly out of reach or just too big. We forget that each movement towards our dream is a success.

Though time may seem to make fools of us and our dreams, in all truth, darling, there is still time to bring your dreams to fruition this year.

Take inspiration from what the forefathers wrote about. You choose your LIFE and become devoted to yourself and your desires. You choose Liberty. You choose to emancipate your mind from the excuses that are keeping your dreams from freely being a part of your daily life.

Choose to pursue your dreams because you deserve your own happiness.

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A self-admitted Tarnished Southern Belle, Debra Smouse is a life coach living in Dayton, Ohio. She believes in order to live happily ever after, you have to actively create a daily life you love. Connect with her at, on Facebook, and Twitter.

This article was originally published at DebraSmouse.Com. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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