The Secret To Changing Your Life Without Too Much Discomfort

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It's time to bust the myth that you have to be uncomfortable to create change.

Have you seen quotes and phrases like: "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone"? I have to be honest, I don't always agree with that notion.

Yes, in order to create change in your life, you do sometimes need to move out of your comfort zone. However, if you are really going to grow into who you were meant to be, sometimes change and comfort must coexist.

I've discovered that comfort doesn't always equal complacency. I don't believe that in order to thrive and grow, you have to constantly push yourselves out of your comfort zone. I don't believe that pushing yourself to always "live on the edge" is going to make you a better person.

Too many people push themselves beyond exhaustion and are dissatisfied with their lives. They buy into the message that comfort equals mediocrity or that longing for comfort equals playing small or settling.

We need to shed the shame of ordinary desires. Understand that these "unimportant" desires and goals are actually critical to the overall enjoyment of living. Because change and comfort can coexist.

Let me be clear. I don't believe in giving into your inner two-year-old and never leaving your comfort zone. I know that there are times we have to really step into the fear and make bold changes. Sometimes, you have to take a giant leap of faith and occasionally live on the edge. But, you have to have some moments of comfort to come back, center and re-charge.

Needing comfort is often a sign from your soul that you are needing to integrate new knowledge, skills or ways of being.

Give yourself permission to not only long for comfort and seek comfort, but to allow yourself to experience and explore comfort. To embrace the understanding that change and comfort can coexist.

How are you going to truly love the everyday moments of your life if you don't allow yourself to revel in the gloriousness of the everyday comforts? Like a morning ritual of coffee with your partner or snuggling on the couch with a good book.

What can you do to find that balance between living on the edge and reveling in comfort? What can you do to create a daily life that you love? How can you allow for growing into who you were always meant to be while allowing your growth to settle in? How can you give yourself permission to let change and comfort coexist in your life?

Debra Smouse is a Tarnished Southern Belle who discovered that when she fell in love with her life, it loved her right back. Visit her website or connect with her on Twitter or Facebook.

This article was originally published at Debra Smouse . Com. Reprinted with permission.

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Debra Smouse

Life Coach

You deserve to live a daily life you adore. When you listen to your heart, you can purposefully choose actions to move you towards how you want to feel.

Tarnished Southern Belle (and life coach) Debra Smouse can help you de-tangle the drama in your life, push away the need for perfection, and show you how to create a daily life that you love.

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