If you want to attract a positive, affirming relationship, you can't just sit back and wait for it to show up. You need to create a very clear picture of what you want in a life partner (as we talked about in video #2 of this series), actively put it out into the world, then allow yourself to choose from the candidates that apply! Be proactive -- no more settling for whoever comes along.
Being a Chooser means you take the initiative… you’re assertive about what you need and committed to setting healthy boundaries to support those needs. If you get push-back from a partner who’s not ready or willing to meet you halfway, don’t back off and apologize…it simply means they aren’t a good fit. Granted, that can feel scary, especially if you’ve grown up being conditioned to please others and letting them take the lead. Being a Chooser isn’t for wimps – are you ready to take on the challenge?!
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Thanks for exploring the world of Soul-Centered Dating with me! Be sure to look at the two previous videos in this series (plus there's one more to go), and I hope you’ll visit me at my website to learn more about my relationship programs – http://spiritedliving.com/coaching-programs/relationship-coaching . As a Life Design Strategist and Interfaith Minister, I specialize in career/life transition coaching, relationship support for singles and couples and creating unique wedding ceremonies & life passage celebrations. I’ve been married to the same fabulous guy for over 30 years, so have had ongoing “on-the-job” experience in maintaining and nurturing a successful, long-term relationship. I’ve also supported hundreds of singles to attract their ideal partners and couples to create and sustain passionate, fulfilling life partnerships. You can view more videos on a range of topics at my Spirited Musings V-log (www.Spiritedliving.com/blog), at www.PurposeJourney.com (where I’m a Founding Coach), or at www.MastersChannel.com. I’d love to hear where you are on your relationship journey and support you any way I can!
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4 part Series Essential Tips for Soul Centered Dating
Video #1 Zap your Self-Limiting Beliefs - Spirited Relationships
Video #2 Create a Clear Vision of What You Want
Video #3 Be a Chooser
Video #4 Be a Successful Single