The Someday Isle of Women’s Health Care - Tips to Manage Stress

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The Someday Isle of Women’s Health Care - Tips to Manage Stress
May is Women's Health Care Month. Licensed Professional Counselor offers tips to lower stress

1.  Hit the pause button for at least 5 minutes a day even if it is in one minute increments.
2. Just take that pausing moment to close your eyes and breathe.
3. Remember mistakes are for learning, not for beating yourself up. Learn the lesson, apply it and move on.
4. You know these: healthy food, moderate exercise, good night’s sleep. Put your knowing into action and DO these.
5. De-cluttering your home and work space can reduce stress.
6. Create and maintain a support system.
7. Pray and meditate. Ask and Listen.
8. Connect with nature.
9. Ask for a hug.
10. Decrease multitasking. (I know this one is hard but try doing one thing before starting something else. It has really helped for me to do this. It feels like I’m barely moving but I’m actually getting more done!)

You are neurophysiologically and spiritually made to be in relationships. In order to thrive in life you need healthy, loving and safe relationships.

However, stress will take you out of relationships and put you in your survival ego. You will then become disconnected from yourself and then others. You cannot be in survival ego and connected at the same time. This is what drives the loneliness, isolation and violence in our world: disconnection. It is not your natural state. You need to be calm and connected to your heart to emotionally connect to yourself and then others. That is why self-care is so important. Without it we shrivel. Your family, friends, work and community do not need you shriveled. 

We all need you blossoming into the creative wonderful soulful woman that lies underneath the survival ego. We need you healthy, joyful, and loving. We take care of what we value. Take care of yourself; you are valuable.

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Soulfull Woman Deborah Chelette-Wilson is a Licensed Professional Counselor, speaker and life coach who has helped many women find that elusive “something missing” in their lives. We are often pulled in so many directions, that it’s difficult to know how to put ourselves on our own To Do list. Deborah offers a 15-minute free life coaching session exclusive to YourTango readers to help you identify what steps you can take to finding a more stress-free and soulfull You.


[1] Who Switched Off My Brain by Dr. Caroline Leaf

[2] Biobehavioral Responses to Stress in Females: Tend-and-Befriend, Not Fight-or-Flight
Shelley E. Taylor, Laura Cousino Klein, Brian P. Lewis, Tara L. Gruenewald,
Regan A. R. Gurung, and John A. Updegraff
University of California, Los Angeles

[3] http://www.amazon.com/The-Chemistry-Connection-Oxytocin-Response/dp/1572246235/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1369068694&sr=8-1&keywords=susan+kuchinskas

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Soulfull Woman Deborah Chelette-Wilson is a Licensed Professional Counselor, speaker and life coach who has helped many women find that elusive “something missing” in their lives. We are often pulled in so many directions, that it’s difficult to know how to put ourselves on our own To Do list. Deborah offers a 15-minute free life coaching session exclusive to YourTango readers to help you identify what steps you can take to finding a more stress-free and soulfull You.

Location: Winnsboro, TX
Credentials: LPC, NCC
Specialties: Empowering Women
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