Why does this keep happening to me? Dealing with upsets in dating

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Why does this keep happening to me? Dealing with upsets in dating
Instead of freaking out when things go off track. Use the upsets to steer you toward great love.

Here are five easy steps to do when something doesn't go your way or you are having a crisis of some kind (breakup, bad business decision, bad dates, rejection, family issues):

  1.     Acknowledge that the crisis or situation (no matter how severe) always has a gift and you drew it into your life on purpose to help you.
  2.     Write down your long-term goal (love, building your business, getting healthy).
  3.     What do you need to let go of so this situation can stop? What are you holding on to that keeps you upset about it? (You can let go of a belief,       an idea, a person, an action or even something physical.)
  4.     How does the answer to number 3 support you in reaching your goal? (It may not be obvious at first.)
  5.     Thank the upset for the lesson and celebrate it.

Fill yourself up great gratitude for this growth opportunity (GO) and welcome more with open arms as they are the bridge to reaching your dreams. Dropping the judgment around them makes them easier to deal with and facing them directly is actually the fastest way to attract what you want.

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Debi Berndt

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Debi Berndt is the co-founder of CreativeLove.com, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

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