3 Reasons Why You Can't Find A Guy


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Second, as you recognize the pattern, you must accept that you are the cause of the pattern. By accepting responsibility, you are armed with the power to change, and you can stop wasting time blaming others or waiting and hoping for outside conditions to change. 

Lastly, face the things you have been avoiding including healing past relationships, working with uncomfortable emotions and getting outside of your comfort zone.

So, thank your latest unavailable man for holding up a powerful mirror for your inner healing. Have compassion for them because they also have the same issues with love (that's why you keep attracting each other). If you take these three steps, you will discover that love is waiting for you as you open your heart and mind to the ones who truly want to be with you. If you remove the barriers within your own mind, you can effortlessly find the love you truly deserve.

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Debi Berndt is the co-founder of CreativeLove.com, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

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