Suffering from Self-Help Love Fatigue?


Suffering from Self-Help Love Fatigue?
How to turn self-help into self-acceptance and finally get results you want in love.

Self-help isn’t a means to an end result that you can abandon one day when your true love arrives or when you make your first million. If you truly are on the path to higher consciousness, your work is never done as long as you are in your body. Shifting your focus from a helpless case to a brave master of life can bring you greater change and finally drop those ideas that used to limit you in the past.

As I started approaching my personal journey with soft eyes, I felt free to make mistakes and empowered that I was building up a mansion of love instead of fixing a faulty foundation. I didn’t see my social status as a way to rate my self-worth any longer and was able to feel better about myself with or without a man.

Through this shift in awareness, the things I desired flowed to me effortlessly because I wasn’t waiting for a time in the future when I would be worthy of receiving it. Self-help should really be named self-acceptance because you are already perfect and the challenge of life is to overcome the doubts of your deepest truth.

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Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: CHT
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