Stop Searching for Your Soul Mate and Attract True Love


Stop Searching for Your Soul Mate and Attract True Love
Find out how the idea of a soul mate can lead you down the path to Mr. Wrong.

Instead of getting all caught up with the fantasy of a soul mate, why not opt for true love? True love doesn’t have all the fanfare and drama like a soul mate nor does it have all that past-life baggage. This kind of love is about being here and now with each other, not imagining that you were mystically communicating across time and space for lifetimes destined to resolve your past karma.

I am just as spiritual as the next person, but sometimes these mystical ideas are misunderstood and used by the ego to keep you out of true love. If you get grounded in what you really want in a life partner, you will make clearer choices without the distractions of staying involved with someone out of duty or destiny. You will also keep your heart open for what would truly make a good match for you instead of looking over the horizon for someone from NeverNeverland.

When you find true love, you can call him or her your soul mate if you like, but remember it is only a label. The real experience of love is beyond words and limitless in its expression. If your heart is open without the confined expectations for what a soul mate should be, you will discover that true love will find you sooner than you can imagine.

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: CHT
Other Articles/News by Debi Berndt:

The Alpha Male Myth


The dating world is flooded with this idea of how to get an alpha male and how to be an alpha male. While the "alpha" concept on the surface seems reasonable, you want a confident person and attract a confident person but I believe this advice can lead to heartache for both men and women. The people who teach this don’t realize that there is ... Read more

Afraid You'll Never Find Love? Get Over It


Do you feel that no matter what you do, nothing seems to work out for you in your love life? The years are passing and you fear that you will be spending the rest of your life alone. Sometimes the fear is so great that you break down and get triggered after a bad date or someone you liked fell away. Your fearful ego is driving your efforts and, instead of ... Read more

Always Getting Rejected? 3 Ways To Love Yourself Anyway


You hear people tell you, "you have to love yourself first," before someone will love you. This common self-help quote didn't help me much. I tried to love myself. I took confidence workshops and I said my affirmations, but when someone I liked stopped calling, my positive thoughts turned into self-hate again. I thought, "What is wrong with ... Read more

See More