Stop Searching for Your Soul Mate and Attract True Love


Stop Searching for Your Soul Mate and Attract True Love
Find out how the idea of a soul mate can lead you down the path to Mr. Wrong.

One-sided Soul mate: You have found “the one” but unfortunately the object of your desire doesn’t feel the same way. You hang on to someone who doesn’t love you back convincing yourself that he is your “soul mate.” You wait for him to propose or at least to stop introducing you as his “friend.”

Half-baked Soul Mate: You meet when you are both drunk and/or high on mind altering substances. You spend the time of your intoxication fully believing that you are soul mates destined to be together forever. The romance wears off when you come down from the high and look at the person with sober eyes and think, “Who is this person?”


Not my Soul mate: You meet someone who seems like a perfect fit for you but there isn’t intense drama that you felt in other relationships. You quickly dismiss him or her because they didn’t meet up to your standards of what a soul mate should feel like. You keep thinking that the soul mate experience is something out of this world and you yearn for that mystical connection.

Instead of getting all caught up with the fantasy of a soul mate, why not opt for true love? True love doesn’t have all the fanfare and drama like a soul mate nor does it have all that past-life baggage. This kind of love is about being here and now with each other, not imagining that you were mystically communicating across time and space for lifetimes destined to resolve your past karma.

I am just as spiritual as the next person, but sometimes these mystical ideas are misunderstood and used by the ego to keep you out of true love. If you get grounded in what you really want in a life partner, you will make clearer choices without the distractions of staying involved with someone out of duty or destiny. You will also keep your heart open for what would truly make a good match for you instead of looking over the horizon for someone from NeverNeverland.

When you find true love, you can call him or her your soul mate if you like, but remember it is only a label. The real experience of love is beyond words and limitless in its expression. If your heart is open without the confined expectations for what a soul mate should be, you will discover that true love will find you sooner than you can imagine.

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Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
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