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Beware that the chattermind can lead you down the wrong path, tear you down and keep you single.

You wake up in the morning and immediately it starts to talk. What time is it, what do I have to do today, what did I do yesterday, why didn’t he call, do I have to go to the wedding next month alone, etc., etc. The chattering mind kicks up and starts trying to solve all the problems it seems to think you have in your life. From small details like what you should wear that day to how to solve that big “single” problem you are having. You haven’t noticed the activity during the night, except for some strange dreams, but this chattering mind is always talking to you.

Take a moment now and stop reading this article. Close your eyes and listen to that voice. 99% of what this chatter voice tells is either neutral or negative. Very rarely does it give you a pat on the back or accolades for a recent achievement. This chattering mind is a recorded tape of every conversation you ever heard throughout your life replaying itself over and over; most of the dramatic themes were imprinted before you were ten.

Left on its own, this chatterbox will continue to feed you the same old opinions that your mother or father did. It cleverly disguises itself with rational thinking and the misguided advice that the past is a predictor of the future. For the most part you may agree with her opinions, believing that you are too old, there are not enough men or you don’t know where to look to find love. The chatter has won and gets to survive another day.

The primary goal of this chatter is to keep you in the status quo. Since its source is in the subconscious mind, the chatter themes are hard to change because the core ideas are protected by a seal that affirmations cannot penetrate. You may try to change your thoughts but it will feel as if you are shouting to someone who is in a glass container and cannot hear what you are saying.

You may not notice the voice as it runs all day long and dictates the quality of your life. This voice tells you to give up, to be afraid, stop believing in miracles and looks for proof as to why you won’t find love instead of supporting you. This voice makes you feel bad about yourself when the guy you like doesn’t call and she tells you that you are too fat, not pretty enough or boring. She pretends to be your partner as she keeps having you focus on the mechanics “how” you will find love, but she (or he) is your enemy when it comes to finding love. She doesn't like change and clings to the familiar self-deprication like comfort food.

You can win over this nemesis by not being fooled by her tricks to keep you single. She tells you lie after lie about yourself and your future possibilities for extraordinary love. Stop believing her. Instead, be quiet for a moment and listen to another, quieter voice that you may or may not be familiar with yet. There is a soft voice that loves you, believes in you and knows who you really are. She is your divine self, your truth.

What you think you create in your life. Each thought has a vibration that either draws love to you or pushes love away. You cannot monitor the tens of thousands of thoughts you have every day, all day long so there are two basic solutions.

1. Change Your Subconscious. Repattern the subconscious mind to train it in a new habit of thinking. Just 30-90 days of regular listening to mind repatterning audios can shift an idea permanently. Effective programs are “training wheels for the mind” and can help you in a short amount of time to get in the right mindset for attracting love. Your first and last thoughts of the day will change to be more empowering and supportive and you will feel so much better.

2. Stop believing everything you think! Don’t get sucked into the negative thinking and actually believe the stuff you are telling yourself. Come up with an image or cartoon character of that negative chatterbox voice. Catch yourself when you are feeling negative and picture that character babbling nonsense to you. Subdue the chatterbox by laughing at her silliness.

Using both of these solutions together can vastly improve your dating experience. There is a battle going on within you, one part of you wants to stay the same and the other part that wants true love. It is up to you to determine who will win the war. You give energy to whatever you focus on so listen to the voice that wants what you want and love will be brought to you faster than you can imagine.

You will never totally get rid of the chatterbox, she is a part of your life. But, you can retrain her and learn to filter her opinions as to what is real and what is just fear-based nonsense. You are so much more than that little voice. Allow your true self to step into the light and listen to her. She is wise and knows exactly how to lead you to the love you deserve.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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