Is self-help increasing your self-hate?


Is self-help increasing your self-hate?
Find a solution if you are tired of working on yourself and feel as though you will never find love.

To be free of the ego’s grasp and get off the self-hate treadmill, choose to be happy and grateful for the life you have now. It is the natural order of the universe to expand and grow so you can hitch a ride on that joy wave as your life feels full, instead of being held down by the ball and chain of the ego dangling shiny objects to keep you distracted from your real power.

When asked if his fortunes were in contrast with his spiritual beliefs, a famous Buddhist, Ram Dass said, “You can have things, you just can’t let them have you.” You will always know when you are in the ego’s grip when you are not satisfied and feel that something out there will make you happy. There is nothing wrong with wanting a healthy relationship and a luxurious lifestyle, but when you feel terrible about yourself when you don’t have those things, therein lies the real problem.

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Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: CHT
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