Why You Should Not Hope To Find Love

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Maybe it's time you replace hope with faith that you will find the man of your dreams.

Think of it this way: you can either spend your time doubting or you can spend your time preparing with joyful anticipation for your dream guy.

Most singles I talk to spend their days trying to protect themselves from disappointment, afraid to feel too positive because deep inside they feel they can't have that love relationship. That type of thinking operates on the assumption that they are powerless over their lives and love attraction is out of their hands. They believe external forces dictate their lives. They silently agree with the status quo and continue the pattern of loneliness and heartache.

True faith is being certain that you are a co-creator with the divine. Your desire for a love relationship isn't selfish because the divine in you is love waiting to be expressed. The divine cannot fully experience itself in a depressed state of mind or unhealthy relationship; that is contradictory to its very essence. You are worthy of great love and the divine wants you to have it much more than you are willing to receive it.

Faith is closing that door to the possibility of failure and standing firm in your belief that you will find your way to each other. As you become detatched from how and when, the answer will be brought to you. Your focus will powerfully shift in alignment with what you want to accelerate love's arrival. Love isn't something to hope for, but to have faith knowing it is your divine right for your full self-expression.

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Debi Berndt is the co-founder of CreativeLove.com, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: CHT
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