Finding a man isn't the answer
By Debi Berndt. Posted on .
Make a commitment to yourself that you will make the change. If you had problems attracting healthy relationships in the past, you cannot keep being the same person. You must be willing to let go of the old heartbreak identity so you true self can shine. Remember, this isn’t about changing who you are, but letting go of the lies so you can really be truly YOU.
This can be really easy in theory, except the transition takes a bit of effort because the subconscious will try to fight off the new you. The habit of being the old you is strong, even if it doesn’t make much sense to keep it up. The key is finding a proven system or guide to traverse the resistance that will appear when you step outside of your dysfunctional comfort zone. Most singles are so caught up in their poor mental, emotional and physical habits that they need help to break free of them and create a new path of love in the future.
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Since relationships magnify who you are being, imagine what happens when your real true amazing self gets magnified? How cool is that? An amazing love is waiting for you and you have the power within you to draw it in to your life. Don’t rush into a relationship before you are fully in your power or you will end up settling for less. You deserve more. Remember, he is not the answer. You are the answer to your dream love relationship.
