Finding a man isn't the answer

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Finding a man isn't the answer
Looking for a man to fill a void in your life will lead to heartache. Find yourself first.

Make a commitment to yourself that you will make the change. If you had problems attracting healthy relationships in the past, you cannot keep being the same person. You must be willing to let go of the old heartbreak identity so you true self can shine. Remember, this isn’t about changing who you are, but letting go of the lies so you can really be truly YOU.

This can be really easy in theory, except the transition takes a bit of effort because the subconscious will try to fight off the new you. The habit of being the old you is strong, even if it doesn’t make much sense to keep it up. The key is finding a proven system or guide to traverse the resistance that will appear when you step outside of your dysfunctional comfort zone. Most singles are so caught up in their poor mental, emotional and physical habits that they need help to break free of them and create a new path of love in the future.

Since relationships magnify who you are being, imagine what happens when your real true amazing self gets magnified? How cool is that? An amazing love is waiting for you and you have the power within you to draw it in to your life. Don’t rush into a relationship before you are fully in your power or you will end up settling for less. You deserve more. Remember, he is not the answer. You are the answer to your dream love relationship.

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Debi Berndt

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Debi Berndt is the co-founder of CreativeLove.com, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: CHT
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