Ever have a false positive in dating?


Ever have a false positive in dating?
You thought you found the one, but then he wasn't...
  • Practice Compassionate Rejection. If you feel intense guilt for rejecting someone that makes you lose sleep or puts you in an emotional downslide, you probably also have intense reactions when someone rejects you. As you become aware that you aren’t rejecting him because you are mean or want to hurt him, but that there is simply not a connection, you can have compassion for yourself and the person you date when you are the one getting the bump.


Lastly, love the dating process. If you hate to date, you will not have very good results. You will have a poor attitude and everyone you meet will feel it. The men/women you interact with will sense that you are just looking to seal the deal and feel like a pair of shoes on a discount rank. Enjoy meeting new people and learning about them. Even if there is no attraction, you can find something interesting about anyone. Use dating as a practice for being detached from results, staying in your power, keeping your boundaries and expressing your best self. As you love the process, the process will love you back.

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Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of CreativeLove.com, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

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