Are you looking for just a man or for your true love?


Are you looking for just a man or for your true love?
You can use the law of attraction to attract any man, but are you ready for great love?
  1.     Know that you are already perfect, stop fixing yourself.
  2.     Discover your inner sugar – your divine joy/happiness
  3.     Avoid the scraps of men (or women) who don’t fit your high ideal of love
  4.     Keep your emotions at the right temperature – balanced without drama
  5.     Refuse the left-overs of relationships past
  6.     If you don’t know how to prepare for a relationship, get a guide or master love-chef so you will short-cut the mistakes and stay on track
  7.     Open your senses to take in all the lessons as you blend, stir and pour your ideal self-image into the container of higher love frequency
  8.     Trust that if you follow the right recipe that everything will turn out.
  9.     Don’t try to skip steps or ingredients and be forced to start over from scratch.
  10.     Continue to prepare with patience trusting that the timer will ding and a delicious ideal match will be served to you.

Remember that love isn’t in another person. Love is an experience that comes from inside of you. No one can give you love; it is your job to cultivate that love mind within you so you can draw in the person who mirrors that energy.


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Anxiety, fear, worry are not the mental conditions that attract a lasting love relationship. You know when you are ready when you shift from wishing and willing to trusting that love is already here for you right now. By continuing to focus inward on managing your mind, you will be less likely to have the grasping energy to lasso a potential mate to tame.

Changing your focus from external to internal takes practice. The good news is that no effort is wasted and you only have to reach 51% faith for your love to appear. You will always have some doubt, you just cannot let that worry run your life and keep creating the conditions of lack.

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Preparing for love isn’t about fixing yourself or healing yourself. You are already healed. Your job is to remove the clouds of your limited thinking and reveal the beautiful you that is already alive and ready for a higher love experience. It may take a little more time for your treat to arrive, but the preparation will be worth it and save you years of heartache with the wrong person. When your ideal match arrives, you will truly know that good things are worth the wait.

We offer free teleclasses every month on love attraction, visit our site at to gain access today for enlightening lectures and meditations on changing your subconscious mind to draw in your true, amazing love.

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Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: CHT
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