Are you looking for just a man or for your true love?


Are you looking for just a man or for your true love?
You can use the law of attraction to attract any man, but are you ready for great love?

As a young girl, I loved to hang out in the kitchen when my mom was baking. I remembered that no matter how hungry I was, I had to wait for the cake to be done  before we took it out and it was ready to devour. If we removed it too soon, it would just be a floury, pasty blob. Just like all good things in life, they are the most delicious when prepared and ready.

As I grew older, I made a cake myself. I was so proud to pull that beautiful masterpiece out of the oven and spread the icing to make it more appealing. I served it to my family and we all realized that it tasted weird. I ran through the recipe and realized I had forgotten to put the sugar in the mix. One ingredient short and it messed up the whole thing. Just like me, no matter how good I felt I looked on the outside, the missing ingredient of self-love ruined every relationship in my path.

No one knows more than I do about impatience in dating. I was the poster child for trying too hard and wanting love to happen urgently. I wasn’t ready and prepared for an amazing guy like Roberto because I was still feeling that lack of sweetness toward myself. My inner-sugar was missing!

In the book “Think and Grow Rich” Napoleon Hill says that there is a difference between wishing and willing for something and being ready to receive it. This may sound confusing for you at first, but let me explain a bit more. Being ready to receive means that you trust it is already there and that you deserve it. When you are wishing and willing, there is fear that you will never find it and that is what you keep creating.

Saying a few affirmations and putting a vision board can help you attract a man, but if you are still feeling not good enough on the inside, you will attract a man who will match that not good enough feeling. He will be as void of inner sugar as you and the relationship will be sour.

The best thing you can do to draw in true love is to prepare yourself internally. Imagine if you are having a very important guest for dinner. You would make sure that the house is clean, the table set and the meal is delicious and ready to serve. Just like a new relationship, you have to set up the environment in your mind to create the space for lasting love.


Here is my recipe for your feast of love:

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Debi Berndt


Debi Berndt is the co-founder of, a personal development system for singles to stop fixing themselves and finally find true love. She works with her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado (Psychologist). Their system was developed based on Carl Jung's work and influenced by Eastern Philosophy.  Debi is also the author of the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN. Get your free lecture and meditation - Why you are single and how to find love without fixing yourself here.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
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